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1. Whore.

2. Male figure saying, “Calm Down.” This basically says that whatever the woman has just said or done is a result of hysteria or overemotionalism and thus invalidates it.

3. Overriding the woman’s self-definition with one the man proclaims more appropriate. And a demeaning one at that. Determining that the male way of doing something is the only ‘right’ way.

4. The Fake Geek Girl thing is utter bullshit.

As I said to the man who posted this:

It isn’t funny for a male figure to a) call a woman a whore, b) determine that a woman cannot define herself appropriately because his ability to define her supersedes her own, c) demean a woman’s self from the status of an intelligent human being (nerd) to a whore on the basis of, what? How she looks?

When I see something like this tossed up casually as “too funny”, I realize that we have so far to go. Then again, all I have to do is turn on the news, walk out of my house, and exist in this world as a woman to have that proved time and again.

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4 thoughts on “Let’s Talk About All the Ways This Is Offensive

  1. I wholeheartedly agree with you. We may have won the right to vote, but attitudes haven’t changed a whole lot in the last 150 years. We need more women like you to think about what’s actually being said, then step up and say, I don’t think that’s funny. 🙂

    1. Thank you! Yes, it’s hard to step up because we’re so conditioned to keep our mouths shut and not make waves, and because men usually (though in this case it didn’t happen) react so aggressively to such confrontations. But hopefully they will see their way clear to understanding if we keep bringing it to their attention.

  2. I was so glad you said something to the guy who posted it! It’s not funny. It’s sad that something this insulting is considered acceptable by many, including women. Misogyny is so internalized and prevalent in our society.

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